Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

DV does not have to be physical abuse. Bruises go away, but emotional abuse is harder to recover from.

There are many different types of violence, but all of these listed have a common thread.


The person trying to control you is the one actually out of control. Abusers are deeply insecure; they must be in control of people and situations. When the abusers feel that they are losing control, they act out.

  • A push for a quick relationship
  • Jealous and possessive
  • Tries to control your life
  • Unrealistic expectations
  • Isolates you from friends and family
  • Blames others for his/her problems and mistakes
  • Makes everyone else responsible for his/her feelings
  • Says his/her feelings are easily hurt
  • Cruel to animals and children
  • “Playful” use of force during sex
  • Yells and calls you names
  • Rigid sex roles
  • Sudden mood swings
  • History of battering
  • Threats of violence
  • Threatens to reveal personal or damaging information about you or your family or employer

Types of Violence

  • Domestic Violence – In the home you live in.
  • Physical Abuse
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Economic Abuse
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Psychological Abuse
  • Dating Violence
  • Elderly Violence
  • Work Place Violence
  • Pet Violence

Sound Familiar?

  • Can’t you ever get anything right?
  • I can’t believe you didn’t know that!
  • Of course, I am right.
  • Why did you make me do that?
  • What would you do without me?
  • You really don’t want to do that.
  • If you don’t change your mind, it will make me really sad.
  • It’s a good thing I am sticking with you because you wouldn’t have any friends.
  • You aren’t thinking right.
  • Who taught you how to dress?
  • I changed our plan, I know you won’t mind.
  • Do you really think you look good in that outfit?
  • Why can’t you keep this house clean?
  • Is there a reason you are late coming home? Where were you?
  • Don’t you get it?
  • Your friends are really crazy.
  • Look at the family you came from, no wonder you are the way you are.
  • Where do you spend all of my money?