by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
Almost 3 years after my first husband died, I met someone. I just wanted someone to hang out with. I thought. This man made me laugh more than I ever had. He had been through some similar life situations as me and we were about the same age so we had a lot of cultural...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
“Codependent No More”. Stephanie Ellis Ecke has written on codependence here. Pia Mellody also did groundbreaking work and this infographic from here is pretty handy: Pia Mellody on Codependency (click to download) I’m including all of these links because when I first...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
On October 31 last year, I left my husband, the area I’d lived in for over 30 years, and headed for a new life in another state. This was the culmination of 10 years of a very unhealthy and frequently verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. It is probably the...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
Breaking free isn’t the hardest part – well, at least it wasn’t for me. It was hard to leave my husband all alone, to leave my friends, to leave many sentimental belongings behind. But the part that’s really hard is choosing freedom. It was weeks – actually, probably...
by Eileen Gorski | Oct 4, 2023 | Domestic Violence
Over the next few weeks, I would like to discuss the phases of domestic violence. The first phase is known as the Honeymoon Phase. This phase takes from the old adage “the honeymoon is as good as it gets.” Picture the early stages of a relationship. The couple is...
by Eileen Gorski | Oct 4, 2023 | Domestic Violence
In Phase Two, the tensions begin to build. Often, some outside stressor begins to cause strife in the relationship. Maybe they’re having trouble at work, money is tight, or someone is dealing with physical health issues. An obvious tension begins to linger in the room...
