by Paul Porter | Sep 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
Who can become a domestic violence abuser? It can be absolutely anyone from a well to do individual, to an upstanding community participant, to a church going, friendly and well- respected person, to someone who doesn’t have a dime to his or her name and is living on...
by Paul Porter | Sep 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
What causes someone to become a domestic violence abuser? There are a variety of paths to domestic violence. It can be experiencing it in your childhood, seeing your parents or those you were being raised by often turn to domestic violence, it can be a temper that has...
by Paul Porter | Sep 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
Who is affected by the abuse? In most cases it is the spouse or partner in the relationship. They are the ones in most contact with the abuser going through multiple issues in his or her life. Sometimes it can be a child seeing the abuse on his or her mother or father...
by Paul Porter | Sep 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
How can abuser be helped so that he or she will not be an abuser ever again? There are a number of steps, but with hard work and following of the steps it can happen. Admit to yourself and others that you have an abuse problem. Seek professional counseling with...
by Michael Neely | Aug 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
For years I thought I was an anomaly (a pastor and a male survivor of a 15-year domestic violence marriage). I had no idea how much abuse was hiding in the shadows of the church and the faith community. It was always there but abuse thrives and hides in the darkness...
by Michael Neely | Aug 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
On average, a DV survivor leaves 7 times before they leave for good. Seven times. That number used to frustrate people who didn’t understand. Now I see it differently. Each time someone leaves, they’re building courage. Testing the waters. Learning what...
by Michael Neely | Aug 1, 2026 | Domestic Violence
The silence we call “holy” might be the thing keeping us stuck. In faith communities, there’s an unspoken rule: certain struggles stay private. We smile on Sunday. We say “I’m blessed” when we’re barely holding on. We’ve...
by Beth Simpson | Jul 1, 2026 | Leaving
Part 1: Understanding Digital Risk Are you planning to leave—or have you already left—an abusive relationship? If so, it’s important to be aware that an abuser may use technology to monitor or “keep tabs” on you. Technology is a powerful resource. It can help you plan...
by Beth Simpson | Jul 1, 2026 | Leaving
Part 2: Securing Your Accounts The first and most important step, if you suspect monitoring or stalking, is to change your passwords—including banking, medical apps, and Wi-Fi access. Do this using a device the abuser has never accessed, such as: A public library...
by Beth Simpson | Jul 1, 2026 | Leaving
Part 3: Locking Down Your Devices Once your accounts are secure, it’s time to protect your devices. This step may involve some inconvenience—but it is essential. Take the following actions: Remove yourself from family plans and shared accounts Disconnect from shared:...
