by Jan Porter | Jan 1, 2026 | Leaving
Here we go again. The start of a new year and the talk about new beginnings. We all have something in our lives that needs improvement. But what if your new beginning comes from getting back to the person you used to be. What if that person was of strong character but... 
by Jan Porter | Jan 1, 2026 | Leaving
It may take years or even decades for you to become aware you don’t look like the person you were before that amazing relationship. I am not talking about our outward or physical looks. Those fade away and are a natural Godly progression of life. I am talking about... 
by Jan Porter | Jan 1, 2026 | Leaving
Sometimes we get so caught up with helping and making sure we try and fix what the other person is doing wrong that we get fixated on the outward look and how others see our relationship that we become codependent. Our boundaries and what is important to us goes out... 
by Jan Porter | Jan 1, 2026 | Leaving
How can we learn from the partner that is no longer equal with us, that now knows you so well that they use those same things that are/were important to you and turn those into sadness because they make sure you don’t get them or something is messed up or destroyed?... 
by Beth Simpson | Dec 1, 2025 | Domestic Violence
Is it possible to care “too much”? Some would say yes, some would say no. I am going to go out on a limb and say yes, you can. Why do I think this? Don’t get me wrong – it’s not a bad thing to care about others and wan to do your best to help and “fix” things to make... 
by Beth Simpson | Dec 1, 2025 | Domestic Violence
When you care so much about others: what they think, what they do, what you could be doing to help them, you can start to lose a part of yourself and your own identity. Caring for others is a noble and worthy thing to do, but not at your own expense. As a full-time... 
by Beth Simpson | Dec 1, 2025 | Domestic Violence
Caring “too much” for others can wreak havoc on your body. When the majority of what you do and focus on is others, your own health can negatively impacted. If you don’t take care of your own needs (rest, eating habits, activity, etc.) because you are fully focused on... 
by Beth Simpson | Dec 1, 2025 | Domestic Violence
How do you care for others without caring “too much”? The biggest thing I can suggest is boundaries. Our culture throws that word around a lot, but what does it really mean? Boundaries in a relationship are how you will or will not act (or will or will not accept)... 
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 1, 2025 | Leaving
Three years ago, I walked away from a relationship that had slowly drained the life out of me. It wasn’t the kind of abuse people can easily see. There were no bruises or broken bones. But there was a steady breaking of the spirit — the kind that happens when you’re... 
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 1, 2025 | Leaving
The early months after leaving were difficult. I second-guessed myself, replayed every memory, and wondered if I’d imagined it all. But over time, the silence that used to feel heavy began to feel peaceful. I could finally hear my own thoughts again. I started... 
