Bursting Through The Barricades

Emerging from a domestic violence situation into the sun feels an awful lot like bursting through the barricades that separate dark from light. Your barricades might include fear, financial difficulties, isolation, hopelessness, religious beliefs, and so many other...

You Are Loved

Having one of those days when your abuser or memories of them have you feeling down and/or doubting your worth? Don’t let the devil get you down. YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE WORTHY. YOU ARE AMAZING. Just. The. Way. You. Are. There’s a song by Lauren Daigle that Reach Out...

Men Are Abuse Victims, Too #4

The years I spent in a relationship with my abuser didn’t end when I moved out of the house, got married, and started my own family. What I had learned over the twenty plus years of cohabitation with my abuser became my way of living as an adult. I lived day to day as...

Men Are Abuse Victims, Too #3

As I mentioned last week, as a young adult, I was forced to do the things my abuser wanted me to do. Instead of playing baseball, hockey, basketball and spending time with other guys and my guy friends, I was forced to spend countless hours at the roller skating rink...

Men Are Abuse Victims, Too – #2

My mother had to be in control of everything and everyone. She would tell my father what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. Rather than cause a confrontation, he would just comply and consider it “his cross to bear.” Things with me were not much different than...

Men Are Abuse Victims, Too

Men Are Abuse Victims, too. In most cases Domestic Violence occurs in the lives of Women and is usually inflicted by a man. This could be a husband, partner, or friend. But I would like to give you a view of the other side of the coin if you will. I am now a 65-year...

Identify, Understand, And Intervene

It is important to identify the warning signs that domestic violence is occurring in a relationship or marriage. It is also helpful to understand the causes and consequences of domestic violence, including its effects on the perpetrator, on the victim, on the children...