by Vicki Garcia | Feb 1, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
But what if the process is repeatedly interrupted? Picture yourself moving through these stages while living with your abuser. They hurt you again but explain why it’s your fault. You experience stage one, shock, disbelief. The reality of this narcissist, the...
by Vicki Garcia | Feb 1, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
The Holy spirit now begins to press you into looking up to God. Looking for a way to finish grieving and heal. This is the bravest thing you may ever do. But you are not alone in this. God is always with you and Reach Out Speak Out can be also. We have counselors and...
by Anonymous Survivor | Jan 11, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
We all hear about starting something new when the calendar rolls over to another new year. Most are not kept for more than three weeks. And those that are determined will stick it out for a couple of months. But what if we really wanted to make a change in our lives....
by Anonymous Survivor | Jan 11, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
You know how it is for a new baby to first crawl and then take those baby steps before they can go outside and run and play? This is the way that we must look at our new beginnings. There will be a lot of crying. Crying because we are hurting, crying because this life...
by Anonymous Survivor | Jan 11, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
There is no real timetable. Each of us is different and has different circumstances and different needs. Many of us have been in an abusive relationship for a very long time. Don’t judge your recovery by someone else’s recovery. This is your life and your story....
by Anonymous Survivor | Jan 11, 2024 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
Are you brave enough to have a new beginning, find new hope, dream your dreams and start your new life as a new you? We have all had challenges and loss in our lives, but don’t you think if God created a baby and there was a process in their growth, don’t you think...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
Almost 3 years after my first husband died, I met someone. I just wanted someone to hang out with. I thought. This man made me laugh more than I ever had. He had been through some similar life situations as me and we were about the same age so we had a lot of cultural...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
“Codependent No More”. Stephanie Ellis Ecke has written on codependence here. Pia Mellody also did groundbreaking work and this infographic from here is pretty handy: Pia Mellody on Codependency (click to download) I’m including all of these links because when I first...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence, Leaving
On October 31 last year, I left my husband, the area I’d lived in for over 30 years, and headed for a new life in another state. This was the culmination of 10 years of a very unhealthy and frequently verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. It is probably the...
by Anonymous Survivor | Nov 3, 2023 | Domestic Violence
Breaking free isn’t the hardest part – well, at least it wasn’t for me. It was hard to leave my husband all alone, to leave my friends, to leave many sentimental belongings behind. But the part that’s really hard is choosing freedom. It was weeks – actually, probably...
