What causes someone to become a domestic violence abuser? There are a variety of paths to domestic violence. It can be experiencing it in your childhood, seeing your parents or those you were being raised by often turn to domestic violence, it can be a temper that has never been resolved, it can be a number of difficult experiences (loss of job or income, loss of someone dear to the individual, inability to solve issues that frequently arise), it can be a lack of communication between two individuals.