Jan Porter

Welcome To 2020!

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Welcome to 2020!

As a survivor of domestic violence, it is sometimes difficult to think about new beginnings. As we enter in to a new decade, the messages that are out there now are that this is the time that we can start over. That we can just erase away the last decade or more of our lives and in 2020 boom, all will be well with our lives.

If you are living in a dream world, this may be in your dreams. But let’s look at what life really looks like as a person that is in a domestic violence relationship.

The good the bad and the ugly are still a part of your life. Just because the calendar changed dates to January, 2020 does not mean that you miraculously have a relationship that is rid of domestic violence.

Please let me say that it is possible to begin a new life free of domestic violence. I did not say it would be easy. There will be daily challenges. But as a survivor of domestic violence, I can tell you that you can begin 2020 without domestic violence.

At Reach Out Speak Out our first concerns are your safety. There is a safe way to leave your abuser safely. Contact us for more information ReachOutSpeakOut.org or mail us at [email protected].

If you are tired of being abused by your partner whether it is emotional, mental, physical, or financial, please know that God does not want you to be in this situation.

Ephesians 4:32: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Remember that forgiving someone does not mean that you accept the abuse you are receiving from that person. It simply means that you (yourself) can learn to forgive the person that is harming you. It does not mean that you stay in the relationship that is harmful.

Are you ready to take that first step? The first step is the hardest to take. You may not leave your abuser this week or this month. But please, take a step. Consider a safety plan and do one thing each week. Speak to someone at Reach Out Speak Out. Talk to a friend or a church/community leader. Do you have children in this relationship? It is imperative that you do not allow them to think that the way you are being treated is okay. They will grow up not knowing that domestic violence is wrong. They will continue the chain of domestic violence. Make 2020 the year that will be free of domestic violence!

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The Hurricane Of Domestic Violence – 4

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the hurricane of domestic violenceRemember Me

How many of you remember the name of a hurricane that you or someone you know was in? That name is distasteful in your mouth for that name. If someone says the name Camille, Helena, Andrew to you, what do you think about? You remember those names?

If three women are killed daily in the United States due to domestic violence, will you remember these names? All these names are victims of domestic violence that were killed by the hurricane that was in their lives — the abuser.
Chandra May – age 29
Linda Pa Vue – age 29
Leticia Vela – age 25
Francisa Ramirez – age 38
Lisbet Mendez – age 24
Stacy Locknath – age 26
Stephanie Killeen – age 46
Gretchen Rust – age 64
Tracy Reedy – age 50
Theresa Watts – age 36

We do not want your name to be added to this list. Each of these ladies continued to think that it wouldn’t happen to them. That as a hurricane comes in waves that the storms of this time in their lives would pass again.

Have you told anyone about the hurricanes in your life with your abuser? May I plead with you to tell someone? Let someone know what is going on in your life.

Prepare for the hurricane of your life. Check back at the blogs from Reach Out Speak Out. Check back at the Facebook posts that give you a list of the things you need to do to prepare for the hurricane of domestic violence.
Now is hurricane season. Now is the time for you to prepare for your personal hurricane.

We do not want to add your name to the list above. We do not want you to think that this pattern is going to go away. Protect yourself and your children. You as the abused person have a responsibility to you and your children.
Reach Out Speak Out is here to help you navigate through this hurricane in your life.

We are a non-profit ministry and our focus is on those that are in our faith based community that are in a domestic violence relationship. 501(C)(3)47-1630804 Thank you in advance.

Remember, your time, talent and money can and will save someone’s life.

*To read additional information about the author of this blog, you may be interested in her book called, “It Started With A Hamburger”. It can be downloaded from Amazon.com All royalties go to Reach Out Speak Out.

In August, you will hear from a man who was a domestic violence victim as a child tells his story.

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